After I got engaged, most of my focus went to attending wedding shows, getting sucked into Pinterest, picking the wedding party, and asking my fiancé his opinion on things he could care less about (how should I wear my hair?).
How was I going to plan a wedding and really enjoy the process while dealing with this rude disease? Having had numbness, tingling, balance and walking issues for quite some time before my diagnosis, there was a sense of relief to finally have a name for what had been going on. I was mad that I had the disease, but I was also nervous of what it was going to take away from me during this happy time and in the future.
I’ve been experiencing issues with walking and am starting to worry about whether I will be able to walk down the aisle normally. I don’t think it is going to be cute to walk down the aisle with a slight limp! I also worry if I will be able to have a good time at the reception and dance with all our friends and family, or if I will be too fatigued to celebrate with everyone.
Now I am stressing about stress! Stress can cause issues with MS and make symptoms a little more problematic. How can I plan a wedding without stressing?
What I try to always keep in mind is this motivating quote:
“MS has made me stronger by teaching me how to depend on people and ask for help.”
This definitely rings true with wedding planning. I don’t want to get overwhelmed and run the risk of putting myself out of commission as we get closer to the big day. Despite my lists and lists to keep us on track of what should be done in a given month and helpful vendors, I still have to delegate others to do some of the tasks.
I hope I remember to be nice and calm when seeking help. I have accepted the fact that some things might not go exactly how I want. I might not be able to stay up dancing the night away and I will have to take some breaks and just sit and watch. I won’t be wearing cute, bedazzled high heel shoes but instead cute, bedazzled flats.
A friend told me that she is impressed with how I make things work for me, not the other way around. I can still have all the wedding I want, although possibly modified.
We won’t let MS take away anything from this planning process, our big day, or our lives together.
Did you get married before or after your diagnosis? Was wedding planning stressful for you?
Lydia Gutierrez lives in Columbus, OH with her fiancé (husband August 8, 2015!). Lydia is busy planning her wedding and will be bored when it is all said and done! She has her Bachelor’s degree in Journalism from Ohio University. She was diagnosed with MS August 2014. Lydia recently started a new job as a marketing coordinator and is loving every minute of it! She loves social media and can find her tweeting her other love, Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson at Twitter and posting pictures on Instagram.