Having to be an adult when you feel like crap is straight up rotten. What kind of horrible thing teaches you a wonderful lesson like who your true friends are and then shows you the absolute nastiest side of life at the same time? That rottenness would be chronic illness. I’m bopping along the road of life, dodging the potholes decently enough until some random side effect or infection comes along. Then, bam, like this proverbial car, I’m on the side of the road with my own version of four flat tires.
Sometimes it’s more doctor visits in a week than I can keep track of even with a Google calendar buzzing my phone and my mother driving me. I guess that’s hard to understand if you haven’t been there. Other times it’s serious enough for a hospital stay. Either way, it’s annoying. How am I supposed to be a fierce chronic illness warrior with my body acting all crazy?
Here are some tips for adulting your way through pain that’s every day.
- Be as happy as possible. It can be hard, so hard, but positivity is a lot easier on body and mind than anything else.
- Don’t entertain fools. They are a huge energy suck, and we don’t need any more of those.
- Lean on your friends. They want to help, and love feels good.
- Practice self care, a fancy pants way of saying take care of yourself and do what makes you happy.
- Help someone else in need. Helping someone else feels so good, and is a huge distraction from the pain.
- Rest, and learn to do things while resting. It’s a good way to be productive.
- Or just rest. Sometimes that’s all that’s needed.
- Play with or pet a cat or dog. It’s relaxing for both of you.
- Fake it. Sometimes that’s the only way to make it. Really, do what you gotta do to push through- carefully!
- Know that some days are harder than others. That you won’t be everything you need to be, and that it’s ok.
Those are my tips on being a functioning adult through the pain and the ongoing hardships of multiple sclerosis and other chronic illness. It is truly a challenge daily. I get by with my faith, family and friends, and of course, these tips.
How do you adult on those days you feel like crap?
Ellie is a 45-year-old woman living in South Carolina. She works as a cashier, but is always dreaming of more — she’s just not always sure of what “more” is. Her favorite hobbies are reading and reading book reviews. Within the first few minutes of meeting her, you’ll realize her nephews, niece, books and cats are her favorite things.
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